I’m continuing with the studies from week 9 of the GMG Ephesians study. I just can not limit my posts to one. Chapter 5 is packed full of goodness for us to learn and glean from.
Ephesians 5:11 says, “Have nothing to do with fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for it is light that makes everything visible. This is why it is said: “Wake up, O sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.”
- Haughty Eyes
- Lying Tongue
- Bearing False Witness
- Harsh Words
When we look at this list it can be a bit daunting and even overwhelming. Some of these areas we may look at immediately and say, “I don’t do that.” Let’s get honest with ourselves. It is more likely that we have all ventured into these areas at least once in our lives and the reality is that many are done throughout the course of each day without our conscious thought. Some are more prevalent than others.
The first three stick out most to me. I think that gossip, complaining, and grumbling are three of the biggest challenges for women. Why? Because we like to talk! (And all the men said Amen!! )
Our tongue can get us into so much trouble. We call our friends to chit chat and the next thing we know we are talking about what happened here, what’s going on with so and so, OH did you see what so and so wrote on Facebook, and before we even realize it we are gossiping. It is that easy ladies.
We have to be so very careful in what we say. Even when calling a friend to share a prayer request, it can easily cross the line into gossiping. We don’t really have to share all of the details, really we don’t. We need to stop and ask ourselves, “Would the person I’m praying for want me to share their name and details with others? Do I have their permission to share the details?” If the answer is no, which most times it is, all we have to do is ask our friends to pray for a friend of ours who has a need. Give minimal details and respect the privacy of others.
Ephesians 5:10-11 tells us, “and find what pleases the Lord. “Have nothing to do with fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.””
I am so grateful for my sisters in Christ. I am surrounded by women of God who will call me out of darkness, check my attitude and tell me I am wrong –or- that I need to check myself. They are gentle but firm. We all need this accountability. If we want to live victorious for Christ then we have to be bold with one another. We also have to have an open heart to receive this correction without offense.
Are you bold with your friends? Do you find yourself quickly caught in the gossip ring? Do you want to change?
You CAN, all you have to do is seek the Lord and ask.
It is so easy to fall prey to the temptation of gossip, which in turn leads me to other sin. Lord, please forgive me for gossiping with my friends. I ask you to change my heart and to remove gossip from my tongue. Lord, I ask for boldness to stand up for what is right, to be honest with my friends, and to stand against gossip. Thank you Lord for changing me.
I ask this is Jesus’ name, Amen.
Linking up with: